Sunday, 30 August 2015

Special Guardianship Orders

Special Guardianship Orders are a subject that have become closer to my heart in recent months. This is due to now having two friends who have taken a Grandparent role one step further and become Special Guardians of their grandchildren. I was privileged to be a referee for one of these friends during her assessment but it also raised concerns for me about the support she would receive from the Local Authority. Knowing the circumstances that led to a child protection order for the child and my concerns for her long term needs I highlighted these thoughts both with my friend and with her assessing Social Worker.  I was reassured, to a point, that the Social Worker was making recommendations for long term support post SGO but the cynic in me remains sceptical as to the delivery of the promises made as any statutory duty for post SGO support seems to be vague.

The role of Special Guardian can be very complex. The SG is generally a family member and may be responsible for facilitating face to face contact with the child's birth parent and managing the complexity of emotions that this might raise. If they are SG for their grandchild they probably also have the added concerns for the welfare of their own adult child and the potential emotional conundrum if their child needs accommodation in an emergency. This is known as the "capacity to protect". They will be the advocate for the child within possible family tensions. These are not issues an adopter generally faces because we (mostly) do not have face to face contact with birth parents . Originally the role of SG was created with older children in mind where there was an established relationship between the Guardian and the child but increasingly SGOs are being made for the under 2s and babies and also with relatives who do not have a previous relationship with the child. 

Hugh Thornbury, Chief Executive of Adoption UK, shared a report this week detailing a deep-dive investigation into SGOs within five different Local Authorities (LAs). I read the 38 page report with interest.

What I read did little to reassure me of a clear understanding of the role of the Special Guardian. The question I was initially interested in was has there been an increase in the number of SGOs granted since the judgements made by the Supreme Court and the Court of Appeal in 2013.  What I learned was much more than the statistics for the rise in SGOs from 5% in 2010 to 11% in 2014 for children leaving the care system. I also learned that there has been a 54% decrease in the number of adoptions between 1 September 2013 and 30 June 2014 due, in part, to these Supreme Court and Court of Appeal judgements that have left the perception that higher thresholds are required when seeking adoption for children. I am left querying whether LAs are now applying for more SGOs rather than test the courts with adoption cases and worrying about all the children left in the care system without adoption plans because Social Workers are too scared of the court rulings to push for adoption orders.

The report highlights how much of a postcode lottery SGOs are in the UK with different procedures and expectations of each Local Authority and Family Courts. This is placing a huge pressure on cash strapped LAs to expertly assess SGO applicants often within very short timescales. Some LAs assess applicants initially as a Foster Carers where others adopt a far shorter assessment. It becomes clear from reading the report how much at the mercy of different courts the SWs are with no universal guidelines being followed regarding the granting of orders. The same can be noted for the preparation of applicants and for post SGO support. Issues of high importance if you consider that many children are coming through the care system on Child Protection Orders before moving to the home of their Special Guardian. Family Group Conferences are being used in some LAs to identify possible Guardians as early as possible but it was noted that often family members will not present themselves as applicants for fear of creating family tensions until it is clear that the only route forward for the child is removal from their birth parents. This can lead to very shortened timescales for the assessment of Special Guardians to keep within the time framework set out by the courts.

Worryingly the breakdown figures for SGOs, whilst relatively low, are significantly higher than for adoption (5.7% over 5 years compared to 0.72% for adoption over the same period) raising the question of whether this is due to pressures within the family and/or lack of support with specialist parenting issues. Some might also argue that an SGO is a cheaper option than keeping a child in long term foster care and the already patchy assessment criteria might mean inappropriate orders are granted. The report notes that adopters are far more likely to seek post adoption support from the LA and partner services than a Special Guardian. Is this because adopters are better prepared to accept that help may be necessary and there is less stigma attached for us?  Another concern is that over time courts are also seeing more SGOs challenged by birth parents. The Order is considered permanent but some Orders have now been successfully challenged which I'm sure will lead to anxiety amongst SWs when seeking these sorts of Orders.

So what does this mean for my friend? Worryingly the following statement confirmed my worse fears regarding ongoing support:

"It's appalling - there is no formal requirement for us to provide additional support ...[Government] need to build into regulations the same expectations of publicbodies as they do with adoption and looked after children - first choice school,access to CAMHS, access to a pot of money they can pull down for specific helpfor their children......"

After laughing to myself that anyone in the adoption field thinks they can access CAMHS easily, my hope after reading this report is that there will be a formalisation of the procedure for applying for SGOs. SWs surely need a framework within which to work that is universal within the courts, setting out clear criteria to be met for applicants? The issue of using SGOs in place of adoption needs to be addressed. It remains my opinion that children should only be placed for adoption if there are no suitable options within the family but we also need to remain vigilant to the fact that children coming through the courts from the care system are often traumatised and need specialist parenting. Is "good enough" parenting really good enough particularly if there is insufficient mandatory support post Order for Special Guardians. The question of what is in the child's long term security and best interests much remain at the forefront of everyone's minds. With that in mind it is blindingly obvious that children on a SGO should receive the same benefits as children in foster care or who have been adopted with first choice access to schools and access to the Adoption Social Fund and other support. 

I remain ever hopeful but increasingly more realistic about these hopes ever becoming reality.  The recent demise of BAAF and the court rulings that are impacting on adoption numbers (leading to far more approved adopters than children freed for adoption) feels like a huge step in the wrong direction after what seemed a promising start with the current government, There are many thousands of children in the care system with uncertain futures.  What of them I ask?

For further information here is a link to the Adoption Leadership Board's current adoption statistics which show a significant decline in the number of children with placement orders in 2015 yet also shows that adopters are being approved quicker and the children who are placed are spending less time in the care system.  It doesn't take a genius to see there is a problem with these statistics.  

There are so many people willing to adopt children who need a home but fear and uncertainty about the implications of court rulings preventing those children being matched with willing parents.  Maybe those judges should spend a week or two in the care system and see what they think after that?  Maybe they should experience the loss of all the opportunities that they have been privileged to experience to reach their positions and see how they feel about not achieving as well in education and spending a life not reaching their potential.  Maybe that would help them see the implications.  No, it's not ideal for a child to be removed from their birth family but if there is no-one within the family who is suitable to parent the child or become a Special Guardian don't those children deserve some compensation for their losses in life?  If the opportunity for a permanent family is denied them due to some beaurocracy then shame on a system that allows that!

In case you missed it above here is another link to the report that this blog post is commenting on:

Sunday, 16 August 2015

Swifty and Pip! A Love Made To Last?

Every day Pip watches this with great excitement, over and over again. Every morning he hands me his "blue paddy" and says "State Gace Mummy, Red State Gace" and he sits, face enraptured, as the opening bars of the music commence.

It's important to put the right video on. He's moved on from the video from The X-Factor because this one is far more exciting. Is it the colours? Is it her hot pants? Who knows!

Every time is like he's watching it for the first time. First there is Taylor behind the red curtain in giant shadow form. The excitement mounts as the curtain falls away as she stands, at the top of the stairs, singing with minimal timed movements, holding Pip and the crowd in her thrall. Every single time he grabs my hand and shouts in awe for me to watch when Taylor walks down the steps "Move Mummy, move" and then screams with massive excitement as she jumps down the final few steps. "Jump Mummy, Jump!"

He then flicks his head from side to side along with her. All whilst singing along. He knows all the words (in 2 year old speak of course). He's a man obsessed. I'm sad to say I've removed Swifty from the car (as much as I too love her) because I'm afraid I'll fall into an hypnotic state and crash the car......

Is this a love to last a lifetime? Is it Puppy Love? Is this the start of a fascination with hot pants?

I await to see with interest..........


Saturday, 1 August 2015

Reticence

Yesterday morning Katie breezed into our bedroom with a smile on her face.  She retrieved her Ipad and took herself back off to bed.  When TCM and I popped in to say a proper "good morning" she sat up in bed and gave us both a huge hug with an enormous smile on her face.  It was wonderful.

After all the anger and angst in our house for the past months I was taken aback.  For the rest of the daytime Katie was mostly a joy to be around.  She didn't keep on too much and was fairly amenable and there was only a minor and resolvable tantrum over buying my nephew a birthday present. In the afternoon she, me and Pip snuggled up on the sofa together with sweets and watched The Nut Job, giggling as Pip fell asleep and slowly slid down my side into my lap.  I could feel the stirrings of all the wonderful emotions that many parents can take for granted when their children are emotionally easy to be around. The love flowed.

There was a minor blip when Katie was outside the front of the house supposedly doing cartwheels and she went over to our neighbour's house despite me telling her not to so she had to come back inside.  Even that tantrum was short-lived and restrained.  In fact it was Pip that had the huge, sustained meltdown during the day which took me by surprise because Pip generally blows through his tantrums fairly speedily.

All was well until bedtime when I watched Katie slowly wind herself back up again.  She was hyper and silly at bathtime.  Loud and brash and doing everything she could to wind Pip up as well.  I felt so frustrated by bedtime that I decided to sit with Pip as he settled and asked TCM to stay with Katie for stories.  As Pip snuggled down to listen to Scout the musical dog we heard the ructions start from the next bedroom.  Katie accused TCM of cheating at the memory game they were playing with her cards on the floor (he didn't).  TCM said he could see she was spoiling for an argument.  Off she flew into a total rage.  I tried to intervene, followed by Pip on my heels and read the riot act.  That calmed things a little and TCM was able to get Katie settled again and into bed and after half an hour Pip finally fell asleep top.  I had a little goodnight cuddle with Katie and she went to bed fairly nicely.

When I went to check on her before bedtime I was struck again at how she puts all her toys around her, like her protective guard.  It made me feel very sad at how vulnerable she must feel and I could feel the tears pricking at how much this little girl is hiding inside.

This morning Katie came in to get her Ipad and skulked back out again.  I got up and went in to see her and she barely acknowledged me.  I tried to cuddle her but received a cold shoulder so I told her how much I had enjoyed yesterday and that my two favourite memories were of her joyous cuddle in the morning and our beautiful snuggle on the sofa watching the film. She thawed a little and gave me a big cuddle but I could feel my emotional reticence flood back in, protecting myself, knowing that the shoe was going to fall again today and wondering when it would be.

We have a birthday party today for my nephew.  Because he is 11 Katie will have one of her best friends here all day and will take her to the party for company.  I hope it all goes well.

This morning and the constrast to yesterday really highlighted how much we are treading on emotional eggshells in our house currently.  I crave the relaxed emotions of yesterday and I suspect Katie does too but she puts that wall up for reasons unknown (obviously we can guess) and I find it hard to know how to smash the wall down.