tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post3892613999924922218..comments2024-03-27T08:21:50.015+00:00Comments on Life with Katie and Pip: Our Adoption Story: Pawse for thought about PADS!LifewithKatiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04128468078776052456noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-64253088956766703162015-03-06T07:25:29.538+00:002015-03-06T07:25:29.538+00:00I'm not sure how I missed replying to this rep...I'm not sure how I missed replying to this reply. I'm so sorry. I'm hoping that the support you have been getting is helping things for you now. I will get my head out of my own stuff and pop over to check on you xx LifewithKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04128468078776052456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-32980354054276811292015-03-06T07:23:13.735+00:002015-03-06T07:23:13.735+00:00Thank you for speaking out. It's a first step ...Thank you for speaking out. It's a first step in helping yourself. It sounds like life is very hard for you currently. Dealing with challenging behaviour is tough emotionally. I find it very hard to stay in a loving place internally with Katie when her behaviour is challenging. I think that's self preservation. I would urge you to talk to someone about how you're feeling and the LifewithKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04128468078776052456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-9778388849653301842015-03-05T20:48:27.033+00:002015-03-05T20:48:27.033+00:00Thanks for writing this, ita really struck a chord...Thanks for writing this, ita really struck a chord with me, and explains why I have gone from bonding well, to withdrawing and feeling like I have an alien in the house. Since we put in the AO her behaviour has gone really challenging and to cope, I don't think of her as my daughter any more, just something to deal with and this is being to impact emotionally. I don't really feel much at Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-74210188907914580432014-03-17T19:07:20.464+00:002014-03-17T19:07:20.464+00:00Wow. Thanks for sharing, Gem and all the comments ...Wow. Thanks for sharing, Gem and all the comments here. I didn't suffer from PADS, but know people who have. And as with depression in general it is no laughing matter. In the above, I hear the fear of judgement, which adoptive parents really don't need. On top of everything else. I have myself suffered from depression on a few of other occasions, and have learnt what to do when the Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15699818088459872973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-87715838351531552342014-03-09T12:43:03.788+00:002014-03-09T12:43:03.788+00:00Hi there and thank you for sharing how you're ...Hi there and thank you for sharing how you're feeling. I'm glad you feel like you're not alone now. I also suffer from an extreme form of PMT and this has been what's confused my symptoms over the past 6 months. It was when I realised that the low mood I generally get in the second half of my cycle wasn't lifting as normal that I could see there was more to it. I am nervous LifewithKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04128468078776052456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-30750375617623601512014-03-07T14:20:13.344+00:002014-03-07T14:20:13.344+00:00Thank you for posting this, I have ALL the symptom...Thank you for posting this, I have ALL the symptoms that describes PADS every single day. In the end it got so so bad I HAD to go to the doctor who is, thankfully, putting it down as PMT symptoms. I say "thankfully" because I'm scared witless of our daughter being taken off us because I've got depression. Our Adoption Order court date is still yet to be set and we've waited Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-17429725317844534332014-03-06T13:40:58.153+00:002014-03-06T13:40:58.153+00:00Yes. I was v depressed with our eldest. I didn'...Yes. I was v depressed with our eldest. I didn't dare tell anyone though for fear of judgement; that the child may be removed (we were ages waiting for the AO); for fear that yet more professionals would be in our house, watching, judging. I was in tears most days and nights. I really don't know how I got through. I think it definitely affected our bond in the beginning .. I couldn't Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-78086327581537497562014-03-04T21:45:52.379+00:002014-03-04T21:45:52.379+00:00Someone to talk to......blooming iPad!Someone to talk to......blooming iPad!LifewithKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04128468078776052456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-67151700739879903182014-03-04T21:45:21.843+00:002014-03-04T21:45:21.843+00:00I feel so sad reading your reply and how difficult...I feel so sad reading your reply and how difficult things must be for you at the moment. It must be incredibly difficult when your relationship and feelings about a long awaited child isn't how you hoped, especially when making a decision about the AO. I know how disengaged I felt at first with Pip which I found confusing after how excited I had initially felt. Thankfully it passed and Pip LifewithKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04128468078776052456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-19880058406134317342014-03-04T20:07:08.357+00:002014-03-04T20:07:08.357+00:00Firstly than you for talking about PADS. I've ...Firstly than you for talking about PADS. I've been depressed since Nov, month 6 of our placement. My SW arranged counseling and I got antidepressants from my GP. I'm still on them. I have struggled to bond with my eldest who is challenging and now find myself delaying the AO due to fears of that ultimate commitment. I plan to stay on the medication until after the adoption celebration as Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-17255131608419566832014-03-03T18:08:42.521+00:002014-03-03T18:08:42.521+00:00You are not alone. Hope you feel better soon xxxYou are not alone. Hope you feel better soon xxxLifewithKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04128468078776052456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-77183079130914757722014-03-03T15:07:40.569+00:002014-03-03T15:07:40.569+00:00I'm not sure where to start... perhaps by dryi...I'm not sure where to start... perhaps by drying the tears from my eyes. I can relate to a lot of what you have wrote. I was sharing with a friend earlier how hard and exhausting the introduction period is and how nearly a year on I don't actually think my husband and I have stopped. I would give a a lot (as bad as it sounds) to go on holiday just my hubby and I - to escape the madness Three Pink Diamonds and A Blue Sapphirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07251145746422148533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-77609564546450073712014-03-02T22:57:03.767+00:002014-03-02T22:57:03.767+00:00Thank you, this has shed some light on how I am fe...Thank you, this has shed some light on how I am feeling at the moment xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com