tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post4558990982241676588..comments2024-03-27T08:21:50.015+00:00Comments on Life with Katie and Pip: Our Adoption Story: Tempers, Tantrums and TearsLifewithKatiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04128468078776052456noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-57101144879448446642012-06-11T17:31:25.056+01:002012-06-11T17:31:25.056+01:00My three year old has rages also. His older brothe...My three year old has rages also. His older brother never really had this problem so it's been a learning process. I let him have his temper tantrums while I ignore them. He always calms down and comes to me when he's ready. My pediatrician says it's all normal and he will outgrow it soon, so I don't let it stress me out. New follower from circle of moms, I look forward to your Ann Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10339456581347160483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-56912149388049252272012-06-06T19:22:10.800+01:002012-06-06T19:22:10.800+01:00I also have to ignore the rages. Pickle is a man m...I also have to ignore the rages. Pickle is a man mountain, with a fantastic right hook and great hand-eye coordination, so any flying object will most definitely strike me. I find I have to leave him on the step in the hallway and remove myself from the situation altogether. This can enrage him further. I have worried whether I should be closer but both for my physical and mental well-being, I Clairehttp://permanentlyinapickle.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-84001879970777207272012-05-23T11:09:50.775+01:002012-05-23T11:09:50.775+01:00No I don't know who anonymous is.. I was refer...No I don't know who anonymous is.. I was referring to my very first comment. Sometimes when you're being kicked, holding isn't such a good option! We find similar with our daughter.. if she's busy doing things she's mostly ok... will have to find her a range of jobs to do! Haha!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-84394056032485554232012-05-22T17:37:22.206+01:002012-05-22T17:37:22.206+01:00Hi Kat. Was yours the anonymous comment above? I w...Hi Kat. Was yours the anonymous comment above? I wasn't sure which comment you meant. It's such a minefield isn't it? I know I open myself to criticism by being open about how we manage Katie's behaviour and everyone manages situations differently. I think a lot depends on each child. Rages are so difficult to handle because they invoke so many emotions in us. I hate seeing Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17603750197226508469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-67233452382638299932012-05-22T13:29:01.658+01:002012-05-22T13:29:01.658+01:00Hi - Just come back to this and wanted to clarify....Hi - Just come back to this and wanted to clarify... when I mentioned ignoring the rage in my comment, I meant we don't react to it as in get into an argument or try to cajole her out of it. We hold her close if she allows us to (if it's a 'distressed' rage), or if she doesn't and it's an angry one, we make sure she's safe and let cry it out until she's ready to beAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-40967330721880835762012-05-18T22:30:29.365+01:002012-05-18T22:30:29.365+01:00LOL I like the phrase "spirited Katie". ...LOL I like the phrase "spirited Katie". That's a great way of describing her.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17603750197226508469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-50700327220079232212012-05-18T22:29:51.476+01:002012-05-18T22:29:51.476+01:00Hey Kat. Yes it makes it much better to know we&#...Hey Kat. Yes it makes it much better to know we're not alone. Parenting is one tough business at times eh?. Thanks for posting.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17603750197226508469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-42538132941324696022012-05-18T22:28:55.732+01:002012-05-18T22:28:55.732+01:00Thanks for sharing this Stix. Katie is going throu...Thanks for sharing this Stix. Katie is going through a lot of developmental stages at the moment: she's growing so quickly physically as well as the other changes happening around her. She is doing so well in so many areas that it doesn't surprise me that she's pushing like this. Funnily enough I've been cavassing opinions today at pre-school and gymnastics and all the mums I Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17603750197226508469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-14720364632707203882012-05-18T22:24:34.447+01:002012-05-18T22:24:34.447+01:00Thank you for your comment. I just wanted to say ...Thank you for your comment. I just wanted to say that I am very close with her during any temper tantrums, usually in the same room but just not giving her my full attention so that I can be close by when she reaches the point when she needs a hug because her feelings are scaring her. Thankfully I don't get embarrassed at all. I've had many a public tantrum and I'm pretty laid backAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17603750197226508469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-69203045748922244282012-05-18T21:08:40.935+01:002012-05-18T21:08:40.935+01:00I wonder about ignoring her rage - while I underst...I wonder about ignoring her rage - while I understand the principle of not rewarding 'bad' behaviour, I wonder if she needs you close, and her rage in itself is both understandable an a communication to you. Her actions, if they are hurting someone (even if it's your ears, or making you feel embarrassed) can be addressed, but her feelings are proably linked to early unmet needs, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-19827118773132784832012-05-18T20:54:19.783+01:002012-05-18T20:54:19.783+01:00Our CAMHS therapist told me that life for Mini wou...Our CAMHS therapist told me that life for Mini would probably always be this way - ups and downs, periods of improvement, followed by periods of deterioration. She explained that emotions and understanding develop at different rates and when they come together you can have a settled period, then as one develops faster again, then you get an unsettled period. This happens for many children, but the boy's behaviourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04428903584989957736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-54073701425168620712012-05-18T16:33:24.023+01:002012-05-18T16:33:24.023+01:00Oh dear poor old mummy and poor old Katie. Sounds...Oh dear poor old mummy and poor old Katie. Sounds like spirited Katie is testing the boundaries at the moment, sounds like you've got the right plan of how to deal with her. x<br /><br />P.s its funnychic by the way I cant seem to reply unless I say anonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6133644764234436521.post-44699173972289688262012-05-18T14:20:32.953+01:002012-05-18T14:20:32.953+01:00I really relate to this. Our 3 year old is v simil...I really relate to this. Our 3 year old is v similar... as you know there's talk of a baby brother and at school the difference between her and her peers is marked - emotionally she's much younger and wetting during the day again... we're ignoring and re-assuring too... I hope it gets better for you and it helps to know we're not alone. xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com