The Lady Behind the Stork.......
As I edit this intro in 2022 to give it a much needed update I reflect that I’ve been writing this blog on and off for 12 years. That’s a long time and much has changed since I first started journaling our road to becoming parents through adoption. How I see my identity currently has changed from when I first started writing. Back then my professional days working as a counsellor, personal adviser and SRE/PSHE teacher weren’t far behind me. I stopped working when we adopted Katie. Over the time since I started writing I opened my own business working as a Reiki therapist which I loved. I also started working part-time in a complementary medicine centre which I love. The impact of the recent pandemic on Katie and Pip meant I had to close my business, I hope, temporarily to care for them whilst they are out of full time education. It’s been two years however since my business closed. I feel the loss of my work and the identity for myself that comes with my work. Writing and my work helps me keep grounded and in touch with who I am. I developed chronic fatigue syndrome not long after we adopted Pip and have also developed fibromyalgia as well. I’m lucky in that I can manage from day to day with the quite intense needs of the children but my dancing days of tap and mo-jive have had to be retired and I have to manage my energy levels carefully. Anecdotally I hear of quite a few adopters developing such medical issues.
TCM and I tried to start a biological family for nearly 15 years. After losing 10 babies to miscarriage, and more heartbreak than we could have imagined, we decided to complete our family through adoption. After an intense year in 2009 being assessed as adopters, we were approved to become adopters in December 2009 and matched almost immediately with our daughter, Katie, aged 2 years and 3 months when she joined our family. Our lives were transformed beyong recognition in the space of two weeks! In 2012 we decided to do it all again and Katie's brother Pip joined us aged 7 months in 2013. Our family was complete. The children are now (in 2022) 14 and 9 years old.
I share my blog to help adopters and prospective adopters get a sense of what our life is like as adoptive parents and to keep myself sane as I try to understand the challenges that being an adoptive parent brings. The blog has evolved as we have and is written with as much honesty as possible. I also hope that, one day, this blog will serve as the story of Katie and Pip's life so I can offer them memories and a sense of their childhoods, something which is very important to adopted people. There is much that comes with adoption. It can be a very emotive subject which is often at the forefront of my mind. We are finding our way through all the highs and lows much as any family does.
I love connecting with other adopters and bloggers through this blog and Twitter and Facebook and receive emails from many different people who often share their adoption stories with me. "Life with Katie" almost has a life of its own now.