.....In more ways than one at the moment in our house.
The school holidays are intense; fun; exhausting; never-ending and I'm getting barely any time to write. I miss the writing. I find it therapeutic; it keeps me grounded and it helps me reflect on things that are going on. We are keeping so busy at the moment though that we're too busy living life to write about it. I have been glued to the 2012 Olympics, particularly the gymnastics, which has been brilliant and a big well done to all the gymnasts in Team GB!
We had our first home visit today to mark the start of our home study for adoption number 2. I was Mrs Bleeping Stresshead cleaning the house (because the worthiness of my parenting abilities are obviously assessed by how
So, despite the fact that I'd barely stopped
The cats also played their part in entertaining our visitor and showing us up by jumping on the tables. I explained that I've always had high expectations of my cats behaviour until I had Maine Coons. They are a law unto themselves so now I just spray the table off before we eat on it. Katie is rarely ill. The Social Worker commented that a bit of dirt never hurt anyone (I hope she was talking about the cats and not the general state of the house - which was almost shining like a new pin - as much as any house does with a 4 year old around!). I was gutted that she didn't get a Q tip out and test for MRSA!
One thing that I do think is pretty awful really though is the fact that our Social Worker (who is an Agency Social Worker) had not been briefed about us at all prior to her visit. She had no idea that we were second time adopters and had not seen our previous Form F assessment. I'm going to email her my copy of our Form F so she can get up to speed. How ridiculous is that? How can she be expected to do a proper assessment without being given all the paperwork thus far? To any agencies reading this blog I beg of you to please look at your policies around using Agency Social Workers and to understand that they need information about the people they are assessing. It's not fair on the Social Workers to be put in that position (particularly as they are doing home visits on their own) and it's not fair to expect that Prospective Adoptees have to go over all the information that they have already provided to their Local Authority (and in our case a whole previous adoption). It's also not fair to only let Agency Social Workers see the information within the LA building when an assessing Social Worker employed by the LA would be able to take that information home to read. The Social Worker should have had that information prior to her first visit so that s/he can plan her time and her assessment and know what information s/he needs to find out.
The other downside of having an Agency Social Worker is that they are only involved for the assessment and do not stay on to oversee the matching process. We have requested to be able to have the Social Worker we had during our adoption of Katie again for this part of the process because she knows us as a family. I wonder if that will happen?
So, we now have our meetings booked in and we'll see how it all pans out. Watch this space!