Tuesday, 1 November 2011

The Gift of Life

The Gift of Life

I didn't give you the gift of life,
But in my heart I know.
The love I feel is deep and real,
... As if it had been so.

For us to have each other
Is like a dream come true!
No, I didn't give you
The gift of life,
Life gave me the gift of you.


  1. Great photo. The essence without the detail! X

  2. That all depends on what a person views as "life". I would consider that whilst being a birth parent assists God in the role of "creating life" that does not mean the child thereafer is "living". The circumstances of many of the children who come into the care system mean at best they could be counted as having an "existance" but just existing is far from actually "living" so in many ways I would consider that the adoptive family (or foster family) are actually indeed the ones who bring "life" to that child.

  3. That's a very interesting point and one worth thinking about.

    I think the essence of the poem is about the life that both the adoptive or foster carer have and the child, as a result of their coming together. Life is a gift in so many ways. I was unable to give a child the gift of life in the biological sense but I am so lucky to have the chance of giving Katie the gift of life in the spiritual and family sense.

    Thank you for your comment. It made it stop and ponder for a while. I like being able to do that.

  4. You are welcome. I was reading your "stupid things people say" section and there is a standard pretty famous comment (and a female version which is less famous) which in some ways relates to this poem but also is a "stupid things people say" and it goes something like "Anyone can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad" and the female version "anyone can give birth but it takes someone special to be a mummy"

    It is a "stupid things people say" (often very hurtful) because it does not take into any consideration at all those of us who actually cannot give birth (either due to not even having the relevant specific parts like eggs or fallopian tubes or via repeated miscarriage etc) or who cannot father a child due to lack of sperm or faulty sperm or no sperm etc but I get the "gist" in that it is saying that which is true - on the whole society creates children with very little thought of how (it seems to use who cannot do that) extremely complicated doing that actually is and on the whole that is the "easy" part. It is the effective parenting which is what *really* counts and we (the adopters/foster carers) are the ones who get the blessing of doing that when their birth parents fail in that role.